Ths past week I celebrated my 9th anniversary, I really can’t believe it’s been this long, I guess we are getting old! Here’s the ONLY pics I could find of us that were taken 2 years ago…oops, you’d think we’d know a photographer! I’m ok with it, until I cross of #69 on my 101 list I’m happy to stay away from the camera.
I’m definitely more in love with Reuben now than 9 years ago, it’s kind of hard to believe that’s possible, cuz I was pretty love struck! He is seriously the most loving, gentle, giving and caring man I know and I feel so blessed to have him! He’s quite thoughtful and romantic when he wants to be…although he used to work more at this part pre-marriage =) He graciously accepts gourmet meals like $5 pizza he doesn’t like the taste of, or pancakes for dinner he also can’t stand; there’s also the frequent nights where he gets to cook for us after a day of work, but he never complains. He supports me in my business despite the hours I spend in my office or at conferences away from our family. He always supports girls night and girls trips, he knows I need to get away and has never held me back from the opportunity to spend time with my girls!! He lets me take my Sunday naps when the opportunity is there, usually staying up with one or two children so I can sleep….oh I love Sunday naps!! He’s always changed diapers and dealt with all three of our kids spit up and since they’ve all had reflux , there’s been a lot of upchuck! He shares the responsibitility of middle of the night wake ups with the kids, especially the older ones cuz I take FOREVER to fall back to sleep if I have to completely wake up, to handle a middle of the night bad dream etc. Many of nights he has sat outside on the patio or in a hot steaming bathroom holding one of our boys with their recurrent croup attacks; he even does fussy newborns in the night if I need a break!! He’s always helping me get out the door if he’s home…packing up things, buckling kids or getting my camera equipment in the car; usually I don’t even have to ask!! He’ll watch a chick flick with me even though I won’t watch a sci-fi or action packed movie with him; he even watched gymnastics on the Olympics with me this week (I’m sure he’s so glad I am telling you this!). I never have to ask permission to buy something I have deemed necessary to buy, and in girl world this means another pair of jeans or cute shoes (sometimes these things are necessities) he trusts my judgement and frugal nature…thanks hon!
In 9 years of marriage this is what I’ve learned about him…
1. He hates dishes in the left side of the sink, they all need to congregate to the right…I consistently break this rule…
2. He has a lot of rules about clothes like work shirts to have not too many stripes or too thin of stripes…or it can’t have too much of a sheen to it or be just slightly off in color! He also doesn’t like his pants too tight on the waist even when I insist his butt looks better in the more “fitted” pair!
3. He can’t stand to sit around on the weekend thus “wasting it away” I so wish I had this disease with him, he is ultra productive, in fact today he actually said “when the family goes down for a nap on Sunday, I am like “sweet, I can do whatever I want” and then he goes outside to fix a sprinkler head in the 110 degree weather, what the heck, who does that?
4. He doesn’t like breakfast, unless you count diet coke.
5. He doesn’t like bags or things cluttering the console when we drive, this really frustrates him.
6. He has only ONE speed to get ready, doesn’t matter if we are late or early or overslept or in a hurry, he has ONE speed and frankly I think he could step it up a bit…
7. He hates ordering fast food, recently we were ordering and the guy had it wrong THREE times each time Reuben repeated it right (in the employees defense, there was a lot of background noise and Reuben could have spoken louder), after the third time he just looked at me and said in all seriousness… “I’m done, no, I’m not answering him anymore.” We sat arguing over this at the drive thru speaker while the man waited for Reuben to repeat it one last time…
8. He often takes a long time to respond to even simple thoughts or questions, sometimes I think he’s not listening or ignoring me, but really he’s just still thinking!! I actually have to exercise patience with this at times as he really does take longer than most would to respond and in an intense conversation this gets frustrating! The good side of this is he is always well worded and expresses himself very well!
9. He definitely does not enjoy the attention or outward display of appreciation I put on this blog…I’ll probably be in trouble for this one!
10. He’s seriously the most loving and caring person, he’d do anything for anyone. I always knew this, it was something that attracted me to him in the beginning, but I suppose I didn’t realize the magnitude of his compassion and love for others! Many of times he’s been a sounding board for our families in their times of stress, most of which flock to him and his personality. He’s a great listener and is very empathetic to others!
Happy Anniversary Baby Love, I’m so excited to spend the rest of my life with you, you’re my favorite!!!